Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Top Ten Things I Like/Dislike When It Comes to Romances (or Why All Ships Should Be Bellarke)


Hosted by The Broke and the Bookish
Or: how more couples should be Bellarke, aka, for the tragically uninitiated, Bellamy and Clarke from The 100, the greatest TV show there ever was

(I regret nothing)
(obsessed? Noooo. I'm not obsessed. No way.)
(Why are you looking at me like that?)


Things I Love in Fictional Love:

1. The slow burn

It's means sooooo much more when it takes episodes and episodes and a STRONG FOUNDATION before you get to something like this

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which caused me to fall off my chair, I'm not going to lie. That's how momentous it is and why it's so powerful when writers take the time to build a relationship and play off EVERY MOMENT, skipping nothing. It's a slow, beautiful death and I would have it any other way.

2. Hate to love

DON'T YOU JUST LOVE SEEING THE COMPLEX EMOTIONAL JOURNEY OF TWO PEOPLE GOING FROM THIS

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TO THIS



TO THIS

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TWO INHERENTLY DIFFERENT PEOPLE OVERCOMING THEIR FUNDAMENTAL DIFFERENCES AND BECOMING GREATER AS A WHOLE

Hey now hey now this is what dreeeeeams are made of

3. PARTNERSSSS EQUALITYYYYY TEAMMATESSS 

I can't get enough of two people who, together, make each other stronger. EQUALS. LEADERS. TOGETHER THROUGH THICK AND THIN, HEAVEN AND HELL, BLOOD AND TEARS, TO WHATEVER END, HOLD ME I CAN'T GO ON IT'S TOO MUCH

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4. BANTER BICKER BANG

See THIS POST for why I just looooove it when my ships banter and fight

5. Opposites attract 

Princesses and paupers, curmudgeons with Polly Annas, you name it. Opposites are GREAT. They play off each other brilliantly. And sometimes those opposites are commander princesses who use their heads and rebel king knights who use their hearts and their differences complement each other and they work as a cohesive unit and slowly destroy my sanity day by day.

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And even though they're so different they look OUT FOR EACH OTHER

6. complicated relationships

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HE COULD HAVE DROPPED HER YOU GUYS
BUT HE DIDN'T

This can include triangular aspects, contradictory things, or basically anything that makes a connection far from SIMPLE. Characters who love each other despite something huge that should lead to hate, for example. I love it whenever connections are made more complicated because of their past choices or current position of authority or... I don't know. Basically, LAYERS. LOTS OF LAYERS. Relationships like onion parfait! Whatever, just look at Bellamy protecting Clarke with his life, it's important



8. friends to lovers

I loooooooooooooooove this trope. I love reading about the slowly blurring lines between two types of love and the complications that ensue when two people know each other so well.

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Just.... just look at it. Just look at it. And cry.

7. unexpected couplings

This goes beyond opposites attract to couples who just... don't make any sense, or would never find each other if not for very specific happenings. But they get thrown together enough that something SPARKS and it's strange and unexpected and the stuff of romantical dreams. I love when two characters interact in books who I never thought of as a couple but they have all this bizarre CHEMISTRY and you just SHIP IT SO HARD

Bellamy Blake did he do something to you gif

8. dark people accepting the darkness in each other and helping the other find the light

My catnip. My true love. My heart's content.

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9. That moment where everything changes

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AND AT LAST I SEEEE THE LIIIIIGHT AND IT'S LIIIIKE THE FOOOOOG HAS LIFTEDDDDD

Things I Don't Like in Fictional Love (AKA Things That Are Not Bellarke)

1. The idealization of unhealthy relationships 
Always, always no.

2. Instalove 
Quick love can be done well--see Isla and the Happily Every After-- but Perkins succeeded in making me believe Isla and Josh were truly in love, and having them go on enough of an emotional journey to make it read as true. I'm talking fictional connections that I just don't BUY. Where I've seen no proof of the lurrrve, but I've been told by the text that the lurrrve is there.

3. Boring people being boringly in love 4ever
Cardboard cutouts kissing is never interesting to me.

4. Slut-shaming
YOU HAVE NO PLACE HERE. EVER. EVER. EVER.

5. Ick-factor
There are some lines I just don't like my ships crossing, yo. I don't have a lot of them, and am far from prudish or socially conservative, but certain types of relationships just don't float my boat.


28 comments:

  1. I totally agree with you. Great post. I love the bickering banter in relationships too. It's just great. here's mine

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  2. I also hate instalove and love couples who start out as friends. For me, my ick-factor includes incest as anything but an erotic fantasy. (Not my kink at all, but I know some people enjoy reading and writing those kinds of stories in spite of being disgusted by it in real life.) Unexpected couplings are awesome too.

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  3. Bless you, I totally ship Bellarke too.That moment when he watches her sleep! Oh my goodness, I think I squealed.
    My TTT

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  4. I love all the things that you love too, except for complicated relationships. I hate when once the couple get together in a book, the story just stops and focuses just on the romance. Great choices! :)
    Kim @ Divergent Gryffindor: BLOG || VLOG

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    1. Thank you! But that's not at all what I meant by complicated relationships. I didn't mean, like, facebook status complicated :) More that I like when relationships in fiction are never quite simple and there's lots of competing factors going on.

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  5. insta love is so popular right now... but not for the good kind. :D
    My Top Ten Tuesday!

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  6. I really like the way you've tiled this post. Top notch, very agree, high five.

    1. Yes to strong foundation, yes to taking your time (although I find that I can't always get behind the slow burn because when it fails and the ship burns out before it gets there or when because the wait was torture and drawn out way too long *cough* Bones *cough* the crushing disappointment kills me)(also i am impatient) but when it works it is magical and delicious and beautiful and amazing.

    2. I'm sorry I find I can't intelligently comment on this because I'm mesmerized by your giffage.

    3. *stares* *pets screen* (also
    YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS)

    4-9 All the yes, yes forever, yes yes yes yes yes

    Basically all of your yeses are true and wondrous and I'm not just saying this because you're describing all of the things that make bellarke my fav.

    (s)seriously though A+ gif game)

    I also very appreciate how this post goes BELLARKE IS THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIGHT not bellarke can you not?

    Pause to note that I very like how you specify the idealization of unhealthy relationships being the not so much factor. I am not automatically opposed to unhealthy relationships in my entertainment because I think there's a lot that can be done with examining an unhealthy relationship and why it's unhealthy and all the shit that comes a long with it and can an unhealthy relationship grow into a healthy one? I don't know, you tell me. Basically I like complicated things and there is nothing more complicated than emotional entanglements that are also destructive and trying to figure out if anything about the ship is salvageable. That said, many people are lazy and just stop at 'it's destructive but they're in luuuuuuurve'

    Petition to kill slut shammers with fire.

    I LOVE THIS POST SO MUCH. THIS IS MAYBE MY FAV TTT TOPIC? Idk, it's definitely the one that has made me wish I did TTT.

    Apologies for this small essay.

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  7. Love the Lizzie McGuire movie reference. A+

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  8. I have to admit, I do love a little bit of Bellarke, but Finn owns my heart. (and yes... it is completely broken)

    Other than my love of your gifs I agree with everything you said haha :)

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  9. I don't even watch that show but this post has made me want to. Wow, awesome post!

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  10. HELLO. YOU KILLED MY FATHER. PREPARE FOR A SILLY COMMENT.

    Darn. I was going to try to be normal today. Maybe next time.

    Maybe you shouldn't say the word death so close to Bellarke right now, because that is not okay and the writers might take you up on it.

    Actually I don't think anything I write here can be stranger than what you wrote which is not to say that I disagree but ahahahahaha

    YES. PARTNERS. That's the thing. NO POWER IMBALANCES. Because then it's all blah blah who wears the pants when obviously the answer should be there are no pants.

    BANTER BICKER BANG <- SO MANY DO NOT DELIVER ON THE LAST STEP AND IT IS NOT FAIR

    Speaking of Opposites Attract, I finished Emma Approved, so the Pollyanna (kinda) and curmudgeon thing made me go DAWWWWW.

    ONION PARFAIT. I just through up in my mouth a little bit. A traditional Onion Parfait Trifle with strawberries, cream, and beef peas and onions.

    ummm just invented a new song to the tune of Party Rock Anthem - EVERY DAY I'M COUPLIN' which is like making ships or something idk

    number 8 is also Cruel Beauty just saying.

    THAT MOMENT WHEN SOMETHING HAPPENS AND BAM YOU ARE SO TURNED ON BY THAT PERSON THAT YOU WEREN'T BEFORE AND HOT DAMN.

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  11. Soooo I should start binge watching the 100 is what I get from this post... Also, I agree 100% with your likes in fictional love

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  12. This should be framed and kept for posterity! I can't wait for them to take the next step in their relationship.
    I love friends-to-lovers romance, because it always feels genuine. And I really like romances that don't take themselves too seriously (so: YES to your "banter" point).

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  13. I started screaming when I saw all The 100 gifs because YES!!! It works out so well, every book should be like your list!

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  14. THE 100!!!! yessss. I'm on ep 9 of the first season. I'm not at the part where their relationship turns into a slow building romance. But, I cannot tell you enough how much I look forward to it. They are like partners in this wild crazy community they have created together while at the same time liking/hating each other. They are tolerable towards each other right now and I'm loving where it's going.

    1. I love hate to love relationships. They are the best.
    2. I love partnership relationships. Partners in crime/good/whatever. I'm on board.
    3. I ADORE surprise relationships, where they come out of the blue. They're wonderfully beautiful.

    Creepy relationships (Twilight, 50 shades, marked) will always gross me out. I can never forgive them for their disgustingness. I'm not going to even mention slut shaming. It's just a given that it's nasty and unlikeable.

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  15. Not only do I agree 100%, you made me realize I'M A SEASON BEHIND ON THE 100! Holy cats, I must correct this now. More Bellarke! Thank you.

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  17. OMG I JUST STARTED WATCHING THIS SHOW. I googled "Bellarke" and "ship" and your blog came up, lolz. I already follow your blog, so that was a nice surprise. Like I said, I just started this show. Shipping "Bellarke" so hard right now...intensely excited to see everything go down.

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  18. Gorgeous post Gillian. <3 BELLAMY. Bellamy is everything. Sigh :)

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  19. AHH the incidental touch after a slow burn! Yessssss. Also known as the Wattscroft ankle grab, which made ME almost fall out of my chair. Hate to love might be my most favoritest trope, it's so gooood. And YES for conquering things together, whatever they might be.

    BANTER BICKER BANG, your law firm is back!!! And it goes so well with all that hate to love stuff :D AND friends to lovers! I could read good banter forever. I love the moment when one of them figures out they love the other. Ahh it's so good.

    TANGLEDDDDDDDDDD. YES. This is so perfect! That Mr. Thornton moment, the lightbulb moment, is the best <3

    Love your post, as always. I'll jump on the #The100 ship eventually ;)

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  20. This post is basically perfection, really. The 100 gifs are PERFECT. And I pretty much agree with every single one of these, especially the hate to love and slow burn romances! Hate to love is one of my book weaknesses, and I tend to ship those couples SO HARD. Also, having good banter and bickering between the characters is another thing that gets me shipping them. They make for some fun and passionate exchanges. :)

    Instalove and slut shaming can just LEAVE AND NEVER RETURN.

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  21. HAHA. This post gave me the feels. Even though I've only watched one episode of The 100 (It's brilliant, yes, but I HAVE NO TIME, WHHYYY??)

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  22. You made me wanna see The 100!! and I loved all your points!! in both the things you love and the things you don't - specially the things you didn't!!! Slut shaming has no place in Romance!!!

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  23. Ugh, Bellarke is so perfect, but still my heart wants ClarkeXRaven.

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  24. I hope you know that it is because of your GIFs and your explanations that I am now more encouraged than ever to watch The 100. I don't know whether I'll be thanking you, screaming at/with you, or drowning in feels but I'll report back. (Also, I totally agree with the stuff you love about love!)

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  25. "Boring people being boringly in love 4ever"

    Love it....so love it. Two perfect people falling in wuv and they're are souuuulllllm8s makes me just want to poke out my own eyes.

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