Thursday, April 9, 2015

An Update


Hey, guys. I mentioned a couple days ago that I'd received some really bad news and would be taking some time off from...well, basically everything, and I sort of just want to let you all know what's going on. On Tuesday, very early in the morning, I lost my dad. He was probably the person I was closest to in the world, and it was completely out of nowhere, so obviously I'm not in the best place right now. However, my brother, friends and family have been amazing about helping me and each other. I honestly couldn't imagine going through this kind of shit without that support system, which I didn't even realize I had before now, at least not to this extent. I have friends taking care of my dog while I stay at my mom's house, and yesterday--which happened to be my and my twin brother's 24th birthday--three of my cousins, my mom, and my very close friends put together a little dinner for us and made it as nice a birthday as possible.

I'm updating you guys because I want you to know why, despite recently returning to active blogging with Dark Lord Funk fanfare, I'll be taking some time off again. And also because I wouldn't have been able to handle these last few years without the support of my wonderful internet friends, who aren't even really "internet friends"--you guys are just friends. So I'm sending love and hugs to you all, and thanking you so much for the nice things you've already said to me on Twitter and Instagram. When I say those things mean the world to me, I really, really mean it. The niceness and warmth and love I've received in the last two days has helped enormously.

I love all of you guys so much <3333333333333

35 comments:

  1. I'm so glad that your family was able to make your birthday dinner as nice as possible, and that you've got the support system you need to get through this time.

    I want to reiterate (for the millionth time - you can totally tell me to shut up) that I'll do anything I possibly can to help you, because you are one of my best friends and favorite human beings on this planet. I love you and I'm giving you all the hugs through the interwebs. You've been on my mind non-stop and I'm sending you all the support that I can telepathically.

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  2. Gillian, I am so so so sorry. Obviously, words fall incredibly short right now, and everything I could say would be trite, but I'm going to continue thinking good thoughts for you and your loved ones.

    Thinking of you,
    Jen

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  3. Oh my gosh Gillian, I'm SO sorry. I can't even imagine what you must be going through right now. My dad is also pretty much the most important person in the world to me... so this is just unthinkable. I'm glad, however, that you have such a great support system, and despite everything you were able to enjoy your birthday just a little bit.

    Take all the time you need, obviously. And if you need extra internet hugs and cookies, I will always be there to send them your way. *hugs*

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  4. Oh Gillian, I am so sorry to hear this. I am sending all my love and good thoughts to you and your family.

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  5. I am so, so sorry Gillian. I may not know you personally, but I want to let you know that there are so many of us who care. I will be thinking of you and your family during this awful time. Sending you all the virtual hugs.

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  6. all my condoleances... i know too well what you are feeling right now so don't worry about us take care of yourself and your family we will eb there when you feel like it

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  7. Oh my gosh Gillian, that's devastating. I'm so, so, so sorry to hear that and I'm sending virtual hugs your way. I'm glad you have such a lovely support system and I know you'll get through this! <3 Take all the time you need. xxx

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  8. I am so very sorry to hear that and I send you my sincerest condolences 💔 I'm very close to my parents also and can't imagine what you're feeling. I am glad that you have such a loving & supportive family. That's a really big deal. And happy belated birthday!

    Much love & huggles to you!
    Isalys / Book Soulmates

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  9. There are unfortunately no words I can give you to express my sympathy adequately. I lost my mom last year so I know how useless words can be at a time like this. Just know that while the pain will never leave there will be a day when you smile at his memory more than you cry. You have an amazing support system and you are strong and talented and you will make it through, one day at a time. I'm here if you ever need to talk to someone who's been in a similar place. Your humor and kindness helped me through the last year and if I can ever help repay that please just let me know!
    Sending lots of hugs,
    Kate

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  10. Oh my god, Gillian. I am so so so sorry. I wish I didn't live so far away so I could hug you in person, because words just aren't enough. If there is anything I can do for you, I'm here. Hugs forever. <333333333

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  11. I'm so fucking sorry Gillian and I love you so much. I'm glad you have your family and friends with you and that they're helping and let me know if I can do anything at all. You are one of my most favorite people ever and I love you (worth repeating forever) and I am radiating hugs and love and support at you and your family as hard as I can.

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  12. I'm really really sorry Gillian, that is so awful :( I can only imagine what you and your family are going through... I'm glad you have a good support system around you and that you and your brother could celebrate your birthday in some small way. I wish I could give you a big hug <3 My friend lost her dad very suddenly 6 years ago and it was so rough but we were always waiting with open ears and arms. Just know that when you are ready to talk or need support of any kind, there will be people waiting to give you their love. <3333

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  13. Shit, Gillian, my heart is breaking for you and I'm just so incredibly sorry. At the risk of sounding repetitive, (which, can't help it that all these qualities are still as relevant to your person as they were yesterday and will still be so eight months from now) you are one of the most genuine, wonderful, brilliant, incredible and just generally most important people I know. I'm glad you have such an amazing support system. They sound like incredible people. I love you and I'm here if you need anything at all. *never-ending hugs*

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  14. Oh, Gillian, I am so very sorry. I wish I could do something for you. Please know that my prayers and thoughts are with you right now and if you ever need anything I'm here for you.

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  15. I have nothing more to say than anyone else, but just know that I'm giving you tons of hugs! I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I'm only a tweet away if you need anything! You've definitely been on my mind!

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  16. I am so very very sorry Gillian. I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts. Sending you hugs.

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  17. Oh my god, Gillian, I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine what you are going through, but my heart aches for you and your family. I am glad you have a good support system around you, I just wish you didn't need it. I am sending you tons of love and hugs and you and your family are in my thoughts. Wish I could hug you in person! If you need anything, please don't hesitate to ask.

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  18. God Gillian, I'm so, so sorry. I feel like a broken record saying that but now that I know the details, my heart just breaks for you. I'm so glad you have friends and family there to support you through this. What a terrible, terrible shock. I know the pain of losing a parent, so please know that if you ever want to talk - if it's about that or books or if you need to laugh (although I'm not nearly as funny as you are) or need anything at all - I'm just a tweet, a DM, or an email away. I'll continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts. *big, gentle hugs*

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  19. I am so sorry, Gillian. Sending you tons and tons of love and support. I'm glad you have such wonderful people in your life helping you through this. If you need anything, you know I'm always here and we will all be here with open arms when you're ready to come back <3

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  20. That just sucks, Gillian. I'm so sorry. Life just sucks right now. I wish there was something I could do, but the best thing is to just to give you well wishes for you and your family. But, just know you have plenty of people that care a lot about you. Crying helps.That's the only recommendation I can give you. I honestly am not sure what to say because nothing will make you feel better right now. You are a wonderful person. All your friends and followers will be right here for you if you ever need anything.

    Lovies, hugs, and kisses <3

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  21. I was so scared the horrible, horrible news was about Ginger, but losing your dad is a thousand times worse than that. Having lost two grandparents within the last year, I understand how it feels. Thank goodness your amazing family is there for you as a support system. <3 <3 <3 Happy belated birthday too.

    I'm like 90% sure you'll be back at BEA this year and if you are, I'm going to give you a thousand more hugs than last time when I was the awkward, terrified kitten suffering from her period the entire time. My Internet/"Internet friends mean just as much to me as they do to you. <3 x 100000000

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  22. Oh Gillian, I'm so, so sorry. *hugs*

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  23. I'm so so so sorry to hear that Gillian, truly there are no words for that loss... I'm glad to hear that you have friends and family to be there for you and to help you through such a dreadful time. Sending loads of hugs for you and your family.

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  24. Gillian, I'm so sorry to hear this, and am thinking of you and praying for you!! You are a gem in the book blogging community and you have our support while you're going through this. Sending you hugs....

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  25. Such terrible news, and I'm so very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family!

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  26. I can't even imagine. I am so, so sorry, Gillian. If there is anything we can do to help, from gifs to casserole (er, recipes...USPS is too slow for that kind of thing) please let us know.

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  27. I am so very sorry, Gillian. I lost my dad as well, and it is one of the hardest things you can ever go through. I still ache inside. It doesn't ever get any easier, but it changes. You will start smiling and laughing again, and remembering all of the most amazing times, and the smallest, seemingly insignificant times, and feel joy. I am so glad that you have an amazing support system! That makes all the difference. My thoughts and prayers are with you, all of you!

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  28. I am so, so sorry to hear this, Gillian. I've been thinking about you a lot since you updated on twitter, and I am sending you all possible love and hugs through the internet. There's nothing any of us can say to take the pain away, but just know that I and the rest of the internet friends are here and will be here through any amount of time you need to take. <3 <3 <3 you.

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  29. I'm so sorry for your loss. *hugs* <3

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  30. OH! Huuuuuugs Gillian. <3 That is the very worst news :( And I am so so sorry for your loss. And out of nowhere? I just.. that must be so awful :( and you have a twin brother? I did not know that. Ack. But I'm so happy that your family and friends are there for you right now. <3 I'm just so sorry. And please do let me know if I can do anything to help. You take all the time that you need. <3

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  31. Oh my god, that is terrible news and I'm so sorry Gillian. I'm happy that you have such a good support system around you. Take all the time you need <3

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  32. Gillian, I don't even know what to say. I am terribly sorry for your loss, and I hope you and your family can find the comfort and a place to heal. That is just heartbreaking.

    Please let all of us know if you need anything.

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  33. I am so very sorry, Gillian. May he rest in peace and I wish for you & your family comfort, healing, and love. *many virtual hugs to you*

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  34. I'm just now finding out about this. My heart goes out to you. Nothing I can say will make you feel better, but just know we are here for you and I'm sending loving thoughts your way. BIG HUGS.

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  35. Hey there. I just find your blog randomly and read this. My heart`s aching for you and I hope you`re coping with this well. Know that you`re never alone! Hugs. :-)

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